Friends. What a word. What once meant one thing..has now became a whole myraid of meanings. Friends come in many shapes, sizes, colors and even come catered to your specific need. Who needs a pet. You can just get a friend.My concern lately is those who have friends, but who in reality have a mate. Thier whole entire relationship fits that role. They spend time with each other, they answer to each other, they share physical affections, and they openly share thier romantic expressions in pubic.But, when asked about thier current situation, they simply reply with this bashful look, that they are friends. And what do we always say when we hear this...ohh thats great. But at this moment, I am here to declare..(*cough*) BS! Now you know and I know that this is a whole lot of mess. And I can break this thing down for you. 9 times out of ten, the woman only says this to make the guy feel comfortable and if you do have the woman who is the ringleader of this charade..she has a fear of commitment. I dont buy into this who friend mess. Its either you are or you aint. There is not between. It's either yahll are feeling each and your actions are expressing commitment or somebody is really taking the other person on a ride.There is no need for romance if you cant even commit to one another. My advice for the 9 out of 10 women who say this crap is this. Either stop pretending or move on. Why do you have to keep fakin the funk because the dude you are hanging with right now is not "ready". Well then he needs to take an account for the actions he is displaying to you. Fella's its time for you to grow up. I got news for you...your video games and your homeboys cant keep you warm at night and fed. That controller may be able to manipulate that little man on the screen, but it sure aint able to keep your house clean. Some men feel as if a commitment to a woman will put all the other ones away and lock him down. But heaven forbid another man talk to the woman you call friend. Your so sorry.(OHH my bad!) How dare you influence an idea that doesnt exisist. You are a fool and I hope that girl leaves you. As for just taking the time and getting to know her. Well if aint able to commit..then you need to leave it at conversation. Dont hold no hands, dont kiss, dont expect something out of her your not willing to do yourself, have solidarity. For the women who keep believing this whole friend nonsense. Dont be foolish. You are worth a commitment. Stop playing the fool to make him feel more comfortable about you and where yahll are going. Stop playing that card to keep yourself in the game. As a friend once told me when teaching me how to play spades, "Play to Win". If you got a good card lay it out and keep putting the high cards on the table. Put the pressure on to force the other spades unto the table. Im going to drain your spade. So I can win. Dont sell yourself short trying to win approval of a man who is not willing to be worthy of your time and affections. Your mindset should be this, ohh okay no commitment, well Ill pencil you in..because I got thangs to do.We as Christians need to grow up! Being in relationships that dont matter. That waste your God given time and resources. Putting out energy for something that God never meant for us. Im not saying that some relationships dont require sacrafice. But when God sacraficed for us, HE HAD PURPOSE. To be honest, some people are just worth our prayers. We need to move past the sinful alliances we have in our life and produce relationships between each other that bear fruit and have grace.But we are taking a break, or we are just calling it what it is for now. Ohh okay. (*cough*) BS!!What is it is a lack of commitment between the both you. In marriage you dont have the option of breaks. And isnt dating for marriage?? Women you want to be with Boaz? Then you need to leave that man who aint him. Boaz made a commitment to Ruth. There were no loose ends, no second guessing, and she had no doubt about who he was and what he thought of her. If you dont know how he feels about you. Then you are the only one in the relationship. Because he didnt think enough of you to validate you in the relationship. This relationship thing is not hard. Its either it aint or it is. Some of you need to make up in your mind that you will no longer settle for a relationship that is bearing no fruit.Read John 15.
Whatever Happend between me and you
how we were
when we saw the passion for the first time
I knew you were the one for me
I needed the desire
that burned in your heart
love, lust, desire and passionthis was not meant to be disasterous
I was meant to love you
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